Dating violence is a type of intimate partner violence, also called domestic violence. This form of violence occurs when two people know each other and have been involved in a relationship. The term “intimate partner violence” describes physical, sexual, or psychological harm by a current or former partner or spouse. This type of violence can occur among heterosexual or same-sex couples and does not require sexual intimacy.
According to the Center for Disease Control (CDC), 2013
- On average, 20 people per minute are victims of physical violence by an intimate partner in the US
- Over the course of a year, 10 million women and men are victims of intimate partner violence
- Nearly 2 million women are raped in a year and over 7 million women and men are victims of stalking annually
Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship
- Gets angry when you hang out with other friends or people of the opposite sex.
- Bosses you around.
- Often gets in fights with other people or losses his or her temper.
- Pressures you to have sex or do something sexual that you do not want to do.
- Swears at you, calls you names, or uses mean language.
- Uses drugs and alcohol, tries to pressure you into doing the same thing.
- Blames you for his or her problems, or tells you that it is your fault that he or she hurt you.
- Insults you or tries to embarrass you in front of other people.
- Makes you feel scared of their reaction to things.
- Always wants to know where you are going and who you are with.
- Threatens your immigration status or keeps you from learning English.
- Ignores or dismisses your ideas or things you want to do.
- Accusing you of flirting or getting romantically involved with someone else.
- Keep you from having money of your own or from using the car.
- Criticizes your sexual performance or uses sex as a way to punish you.
- Leaves you stranded in a dangerous place.
- Refuses to help you out or keeps you from the doctor.
Warning Signs that Someone May be Abusive
- Controlling Behavior
- Quick involvement in the relationship
- Unrealistic expectations
- Isolates the Partner
- Blames others for problems
- Cruelty towards animals/children
- "Playful" use of force during sex
- Verbal abuse
- Belief in rigid sex roles
- Extreme moods
- Abusive in past relationships
- Threatens violence
- Breaks or destroys objects
- Uses force during an argument
- Has trouble controlling anger/temper
- Dependency and attachment problems
- Sense of entitlement
- Low self-esteem
What you Can Do
- Recognize that you do not deserve abuse and it is not your fault.
- Acknowledge that you deserve respect and care within a relationship.
- Understand that there are resources available; you are not alone. Seek supportive counseling.
- Develop a safety plan, for instance, have money and car keys hidden; seek a safe place.
- Report the violence to family, friends, and law enforcement agencies.
Community and National Resources
In an emergency, call the police at 911
|National Domestic Violence Hotline||1-800-799-SAFE (7233)|
|Houston Area Women's Center||(713) 528-2121|
|Aid to Victims of Domestic Abuse||http://avda-tx.org/v2/|
|Teen and Young Adult Dating Abuse Helpline||loveisrespect.org|
|Texas Council of Family Violence||http://www.tcfv.org/|
|National Coalition Against Domestic Violence||http://www.ncadv.org/|
University of Houston Campus Resources
|UH Department of Public Safety||Emergency: 911
Information: (713) 743-0600 or (713) 743-333
|Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS)||(713) 743-5454|
|Women and Gender Resource Center||(832) 842-6191|
|UH Health Center||(713) 743-5151|
|UH Wellness Department||(713) 743-5430|